There is absolutely nothing wrong with putting an end to emotional manipulation and pain that have been caused by someone else’s reckless, selfish behavior.

If someone that you love is using your emotions to get something from you: such as attention, sex, money, praise, an escape from their fear of or inability to be alone, etc.,

They are not entitled to an explanation when you walk, or perhaps run away.

Close the door, protect yourself from the trauma and terror that they have allowed to define their lives and relationships.

Accept the fact that if they are doing this to you, intentionally, they are probably quite sick, in more ways than one.

They need help, but they will not help themselves; maybe they cannot help themselves, but you are not responsible for their healing.

You are responsible for your healing, for your well-being. With their abusiveness they have asked for you to turn away. They have insisted on your exit; to put an end to their intolerable and unacceptable actions, as far as you are concerned.

Make it impossible for them to even stand in your shadow. Do not be afraid to give them what they have asked for. Show them with your feet that there are consequences for hurting you.

Refuse to let them attempt to manipulate you any further or waste one minute of your precious time, or anything else that you might have to give them.

Open the door for love from someone who can and will show you that they truly know how to love themselves and others.

Be strong and courageous. Go on living and creating your beautiful life, and give yourself the compassion, love, and respect that they could never give to you.

You deserve it.

© 2024 annalise fonza, Ph.D., MURP, MDiv, MPA