Once, I heard from an ex-lover who was upset with me about something that I had said and done,
And he asked me, “Did you notice this or that?”
However, when I thought about it, I realized that my ex did not realize the times that he said and did the very same things, and much worse.
He did not notice or recall the times that his behavior was painfully abusive and absent: totally unacceptable.
He did not notice that he was hurting me and the future of our relationship beyond comprehension.
He did not notice how dishonest he was about his feelings and about his concern for my life, or my well-being.
He did not notice how unwilling he was to change and grow.
These are the things that he did not notice when we were together and in love.
And, these are the things that he probably will not notice until he finally realizes that I am no longer in his orbit or a vital part of his life and safely in the arms of someone who notices love.
© 2019 annalise fonza, Ph.D.