When someone tells you that they don’t care about you or what is going on in your life,
They show you with their actions and with their words what they really feel.
If they run away when there is trouble or pain in your life,
If they refuse to be with you in mind and body when it matters to you,
Realize what is happening, and who they really are in content and character.
They are gone, unavailable, and unable to be by your side, for you and with you.
In cowardice, they cannot look you in the eye and say that they will not be there and that you do not matter to them.
When this happens, you will have a decision to make.
Will you be there for them when they return to offer words of regret and sorrow?
Will you forgive them for not being willing or able to be there for you as you were there for them?
You don’t have to be empathetic or present to anyone who intentionally and repeatedly fails and abandons you in mind or in body.
There are many other people and causes that you can care about,
And they will want to be with you,
Perhaps they will even love you in return.
In the meantime, when someone you once loved fails to love you and chooses to leave you, let them go (back to the crevices and faultlines from whence they came);
Love yourself, first and foremost;
And, you will know the power of love.
©2019 annalise fonza, Ph.D.