Every now and then I am asked, by men, if other men are intimidated by me (usually because of my educational background).
That question always let’s me know what a man thinks of himself and his intelligence (and the intelligence of other men for that matter).
It is a question that has more to say about the one asking it (and his self-esteem) than it does about me.
If a man is afraid or ambivalent about being with me because of my education then he probably does not feel comfortable (or worthy) with any woman who has more education than he for any reason.
If you are intimidated with a woman who is smarter than you, then stay with what you know. Don’t try to be with women that you have no intentions of trying to understand and respect. If you are uncomfortable around smart, educated women, well, er, then those women are not the ones for you. Stay in your lane. Be with the ones with whom you feel most comfortable. Choose partners that you feel equal to in intellect, abilities and experiences.
Funny how sometimes the questions we ask reveal what we really believe about ourselves, and others. And, what we believe about ourselves, deep-down, is what will inform our most lasting and significant choices in life.
© 2017 annalise fonza, Ph.D.